Cheatsheet
Personal Boundaries and Body Tension
A session map for physical reactions to pressure, automatic agreement, guilt, power differences, and clear boundary behavior.
Criteria, checks, and next step
01
Specific episode
Stay close to observable facts.
- What did the other person ask or do?
- What did the client say, and what happened in the body?
02
Automatic agreement
Understand the protective logic.
- What is avoided by saying yes?
- Is there a real power difference or safety concern?
03
Need and right
Clarify what the boundary protects.
- What needs protection or negotiation?
- Which personal right is difficult to acknowledge?
04
Statement and action
Move from insight to behavior.
- What brief response fits the situation?
- What will the client do if pressure continues?
Summary
Reduce the decision to a few points
- Write one short boundary statement.
- Treat body signals as information, not commands.
- Create a safety plan when directness could increase danger.
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